6 Important Conversations to Have Before Getting Married

Getting married is a major milestone—and while love is the foundation, strong communication builds the house. At Spaces Therapy, we often work with couples preparing for this exciting step. One of the best ways to strengthen your future marriage is to talk through key topics before you say “I do.”

Here are six conversations every couple should have:

1. Money and Spending Habits

Finances are a common source of tension. Talk openly about how you handle money—saving, debt, budgeting, and spending.
Ask: Do we want joint or separate accounts? What are our financial goals?

2. Family and Children

Discuss whether you want children, when, and how you'd like to raise them. Also consider how involved extended family will be in your lives and how you’ll navigate holidays or family boundaries.

3. Roles and Daily Responsibilities

Who cooks? Who cleans? How will you handle work-life balance? Clear expectations around household and emotional labor can prevent resentment later.

4. Communication and Conflict

Everyone argues—but how you argue matters. Talk about how you handle conflict, your emotional triggers, and how you’d like to repair after a disagreement.

5. Sex and Emotional Intimacy

Be honest about your needs, boundaries, and how you each feel connected—physically and emotionally. These conversations lay the groundwork for lasting intimacy.

6. Core Values and Lifestyle

Your beliefs, routines, and long-term goals shape your life together. Talk about what matters most—spiritually, politically, or personally—and how you'll support each other as individuals and partners.

Want Help Having These Talks?

At Spaces Therapy in Highland Park, we offer premarital counseling designed to guide couples through these important conversations in a supportive space. Whether you’re newly engaged or just starting to talk about the future, we’re here to help you build a healthy, lasting partnership.

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